fix SIGSEGV when release resources

[alpha-baby]

reproduce

Machine information

$nvidia-smi topo -m
        GPU0    GPU1    GPU2    GPU3    GPU4    GPU5    GPU6    GPU7    NIC0    NIC1    NIC2    NIC3    CPU Affinity    NUMA Affinity   GPU NUMA ID
GPU0     X      NV18    NV18    NV18    NV18    NV18    NV18    NV18    NODE    NODE    SYS     SYS     0-47,96-143     0               N/A
GPU1    NV18     X      NV18    NV18    NV18    NV18    NV18    NV18    PIX     NODE    SYS     SYS     0-47,96-143     0               N/A
GPU2    NV18    NV18     X      NV18    NV18    NV18    NV18    NV18    NODE    NODE    SYS     SYS     0-47,96-143     0               N/A
GPU3    NV18    NV18    NV18     X      NV18    NV18    NV18    NV18    NODE    PIX     SYS     SYS     0-47,96-143     0               N/A
GPU4    NV18    NV18    NV18    NV18     X      NV18    NV18    NV18    SYS     SYS     PIX     NODE    48-95,144-191   1               N/A
GPU5    NV18    NV18    NV18    NV18    NV18     X      NV18    NV18    SYS     SYS     NODE    NODE    48-95,144-191   1               N/A
GPU6    NV18    NV18    NV18    NV18    NV18    NV18     X      NV18    SYS     SYS     NODE    PIX     48-95,144-191   1               N/A
GPU7    NV18    NV18    NV18    NV18    NV18    NV18    NV18     X      SYS     SYS     NODE    NODE    48-95,144-191   1               N/A
NIC0    NODE    PIX     NODE    NODE    SYS     SYS     SYS     SYS      X      NODE    SYS     SYS
NIC1    NODE    NODE    NODE    PIX     SYS     SYS     SYS     SYS     NODE     X      SYS     SYS
NIC2    SYS     SYS     SYS     SYS     PIX     NODE    NODE    NODE    SYS     SYS      X      NODE
NIC3    SYS     SYS     SYS     SYS     NODE    NODE    PIX     NODE    SYS     SYS     NODE     X 

Legend:

  X    = Self
  SYS  = Connection traversing PCIe as well as the SMP interconnect between NUMA nodes (e.g., QPI/UPI)
  NODE = Connection traversing PCIe as well as the interconnect between PCIe Host Bridges within a NUMA node
  PHB  = Connection traversing PCIe as well as a PCIe Host Bridge (typically the CPU)
  PXB  = Connection traversing multiple PCIe bridges (without traversing the PCIe Host Bridge)
  PIX  = Connection traversing at most a single PCIe bridge
  NV#  = Connection traversing a bonded set of # NVLinks

NIC Legend:

  NIC0: mlx5_bond_0
  NIC1: mlx5_bond_1
  NIC2: mlx5_bond_2
  NIC3: mlx5_bond_3

NIC info

hca_id: mlx5_bond_0
        transport:                      InfiniBand (0)
        fw_ver:                         32.39.3920
        node_guid:                      e09d:7303:0024:7630
        sys_image_guid:                 e09d:7303:0024:7630
        vendor_id:                      0x02c9
        vendor_part_id:                 41692
        hw_ver:                         0x1
        board_id:                       MT_0000001093
        phys_port_cnt:                  1
                port:   1
                        state:                  PORT_ACTIVE (4)
                        max_mtu:                4096 (5)
                        active_mtu:             4096 (5)
                        sm_lid:                 0
                        port_lid:               0
                        port_lmc:               0x00
                        link_layer:             Ethernet

hca_id: mlx5_bond_1
        transport:                      InfiniBand (0)
        fw_ver:                         32.39.3920
        node_guid:                      e09d:7303:0024:79a0
        sys_image_guid:                 e09d:7303:0024:79a0
        vendor_id:                      0x02c9
        vendor_part_id:                 41692
        hw_ver:                         0x1
        board_id:                       MT_0000001093
        phys_port_cnt:                  1
                port:   1
                        state:                  PORT_ACTIVE (4)
                        max_mtu:                4096 (5)
                        active_mtu:             4096 (5)
                        sm_lid:                 0
                        port_lid:               0
                        port_lmc:               0x00
                        link_layer:             Ethernet

hca_id: mlx5_bond_2
        transport:                      InfiniBand (0)
        fw_ver:                         32.39.3920
        node_guid:                      e09d:7303:0027:1b08
        sys_image_guid:                 e09d:7303:0027:1b08
        vendor_id:                      0x02c9
        vendor_part_id:                 41692
        hw_ver:                         0x1
        board_id:                       MT_0000001093
        phys_port_cnt:                  1
                port:   1
                        state:                  PORT_ACTIVE (4)
                        max_mtu:                4096 (5)
                        active_mtu:             4096 (5)
                        sm_lid:                 0
                        port_lid:               0
                        port_lmc:               0x00
                        link_layer:             Ethernet

hca_id: mlx5_bond_3
        transport:                      InfiniBand (0)
        fw_ver:                         32.39.3920
        node_guid:                      e09d:7303:0024:6fbe
        sys_image_guid:                 e09d:7303:0024:6fbe
        vendor_id:                      0x02c9
        vendor_part_id:                 41692
        hw_ver:                         0x1
        board_id:                       MT_0000001093
        phys_port_cnt:                  1
                port:   1
                        state:                  PORT_ACTIVE (4)
                        max_mtu:                4096 (5)
                        active_mtu:             4096 (5)
                        sm_lid:                 0
                        port_lid:               0
                        port_lmc:               0x00
                        link_layer:             Ethernet

env config:

NVSHMEM_ENABLE_NIC_PE_MAPPING=1
NVSHMEM_DEBUG_SUBSYS=INIT
NVSHMEM_IB_GID_INDEX=3
NVSHMEM_IB_SL=5
NVSHMEM_DEBUG=INFO
NVSHMEM_HCA_PE_MAPPING=mlx5_bond_0:1:2,mlx5_bond_1:1:2,mlx5_bond_2:1:2,mlx5_bond_3:1:2
NVSHMEM_IB_TRAFFIC_CLASS=16

NCCL_SOCKET_IFNAME=bond0
NCCL_NET_PLUGIN=
NCCL_IB_TIMEOUT=22
NCCL_IB_GID_INDEX=3
NCCL_SET_THREAD_NAME=1
NCCL_DEBUG_SUBSYS=INIT,TUNING,GRAPH
NCCL_IB_SL=5
NCCL_IB_TC=136
NCCL_IB_HCA=mlx5_bond
NCCL_IB_RETRY_CNT=7
NCCL_IB_QPS_PER_CONNECTION=8
NCCL_DEBUG=INFO

run deepep log file:
deep_ep_test.log